We live in a sexually crazed culture of confusion and chaos. One of the symptoms of this comes in the recent release of the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey.” It’s nothing less than pornography for women. It celebrates male domination in how a powerful man seduces a younger woman and controls her and it’s very disturbing that women are actually enjoying this. Satan is having a field day with the younger generation who is growing up with a perverted, twisted view of human sexuality that has nothing to do with what the Bible commands.
What is God’s will concerning sexual morality and ethics according to the authority of the Bible? In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 Paul writes, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.”
The Scripture clearly and adamantly teaches that God’s will is that we are holy—that is, we display lifestyles that are separate from the world around us. Paul then, gives us three specific ways we are to live holy lives according to God’s will.
First of all, the Bible commands us to abstain from sexual immorality. This means to “abstain”, “flee”, “totally avoid”. The word for sexual immorality in the original language is “porneia” which means any sexual expression, behavior, or relationship OUTSIDE a covenant marriage between one man and one woman. Therefore, sexual immorality includes sex before marriage, sleeping around, adultery, homosexual relationship, incest, bestiality, prostitution, pornography, sexting, sexual snapchatting, adult chat rooms and dating websites. 1 Corinthians 6:18–20 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
Second, Paul commands us to control or master our lusts. Sexual immorality comes from inward desires and passions and attitudes and thoughts that turn into outward actions. There are “root” sins and “fruit” sins. The “fruit” sins are those outward actions that are sinful like pre-marital sex, adultery, looking at pornography, homosexual activities. But what lurks below the surface are the passionate lusts and evil desires that are deep in the heart that are “root” sins that eventually lead to the fruit sins.We are to control our lusts that are deep within our hearts. Listen to Jesus in Mark 7:21–23: “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
You feed your lusts by making provision for the flesh. It could be what you think about. It could be what you watch. What you fill your mind with. Where your heart goes when you’re bored or lonely or depressed. Instead of feeding your flesh, you need to kill it by putting on Jesus. That means to concentrate on Christ and His glory and think about the cross and think about the ugliness of sin and begin to dwell on who Jesus is and His love and His power and to consume your thoughts with Jesus until He becomes more glorious and powerful than what your flesh wants to do in gratifying your passions and lusts.
Thirdly, the Bible commands us to not cause other Christians to stumble sexually. In verse 6, Paul gives two commands: Don’t transgress or trespass your brother or sister and don’t wrong your brother or sister in Christ. The word “trespass” really means to cross or overstep the bounds. To cross ungodly boundaries. In other words, as a Christian you have no right to cross Biblical boundaries with another Christian. In doing so you actually “wrong” them. That word means to “exploit or defraud” or take advantage.
God gives a solemn warning here about His vengeance or wrath or righteous anger if you continue in unrepentant sexual sins as a habitual lifestyle. Colossians 3:5–6 reads, “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which are idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming.”
Think about how strong a warning this really is. If you live in unrepentant, habitual sexual sin, it shows that you could care less about Jesus as Lord. If you live in unrepentant, habitual sexual sin, it shows that you are rejecting the clear commands of God in the Bible. If you live in unrepentant, habitual sexual sin, it shows that you don’t have the Holy Spirit in you and you’re living just like a lost person who doesn’t know God. And most terrifying of all….if you live in unrepentant, habitual sexual sin, it will bring God’s wrath and you will end up in hell. Again, Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:9–10: “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
So what is God’s will for you life? He commands you to live to please Him not to please yourself. He calls you to be holy, not necessarily happy. He calls you to flee, abstain, and run from sexual immorality. He calls you to control your lusts and not feed your flesh. He calls you to not take advantage or overstep boundaries with other Christians. He has called you to holiness and purity and to be distinctly different from the world around you. This message is counter-cultural and may seem weird, foreign, archaic, and unenlightened. But God has spoke in His authoritative Word and we have no choice as Christians but to obey!